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Seeing the Beauty

So. It’s a gloomy 8:13am in middle Georgia. The sky is spewing rain yet the air is warm. The trees are drenched and the puddles in the driveway expand. Grumbles of thunder loom in the distance. The rain stops and the birds start to sing. A couple of them zoom in on a puddle and start to bathe themselves. Spring flowers dot the landscape, just beginning to emerge with their bright and bold colors; an amazing fragrance fills the air. The green of the trees is enhanced as drips of water hit the moist ground. Then, the rain returns. Life is great. That’s pretty much it.

I guess that’s all I really want to share today: life is great, even though to some it may not appear to be. I am amazed at how great my life has turned out. I’ve had some pretty rough patches. I’ve been knocked down so many times in so many ways, but all that, all that has brought me here, to this amazing time in my life – and I am so incredibly thankful you cannot imagine. No. Things aren’t perfect, but, that’s the beauty of it. Nothing is horribly wrong, nothing is even remotely wrong. There is nothing in my life right now that I fear, and for that I am grateful.

You’ve all heard that life is what we make of it. True, but it goes much deeper than that. If you want something, you have to believe. If you want something, you have to work for it. Ok. Some people don’t work for it, which I think is a shame, because without working for it, you don’t gain the appreciation of having it. This world has become too ‘gimme’. We are a society who feels indebted, as if we somehow earned happiness as a birth right. Well, we haven’t. Some don’t have it as hard, some have it worse. While it may seem unfair, life has this natural balance. It’s hard to ascertain a person’s level of happiness just by looking at them or reviewing their bank statements. We all do it, but stereotyping someone is the biggest fail. Some emotions do not have a face. They are felt so deep inside that they are hard to judge. Just because someone has money doesn’t mean they are happy. Just because someone smiles, doesn’t mean they are happy. Just because someone has ‘things’ doesn’t mean they are enjoying life. Some of the wealthiest people are having the worst time of their lives. Wealth isn’t in ‘things’, it’s inside. That’s what makes us unique. Some people do not look deep inside, the expect happiness to follow them, to come to them in the form of another person. I’m learning that ‘happy’ is a state of mind that starts inside. Peace isn’t the absence of pain or trials, it’s knowing who you are in the midst of it. It’s working for what we want and appreciating who it makes us in the process. For all I have inside, and out, I extend my deepest appreciation.

Thank you, Lord, for watching over me. I ask that you watch over my children and help them to succeed in this life. Show them true happiness that does not fade. Shower them with your unfailing love like You do the flowers and the trees. Thank you for the nuturing you provide my soul. Thank you for helping me become the person I am today, for the realization of what greatness lies within me. Thank you Lord, for the beauty that surrounds me, even if at times I cannot see it as clearly as I do now. Help me to continue to grow and be this person I always knew was here. Thank you for forgiving me and loving me through my faults. And thank you Lord, for the rain, and the sunshine.

~Amen

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Choices Lead to Chances

This has been on my mind for some time. Figured it was time to blog about it.

It’s simple really: “Our choices lead way to our chances.” That’s it. Think about it. We cannot achieve everything nor can we make everything happen. Yes. Sometimes we get ‘lucky’ but more often than not, we played a part in being at the right place at the right time. Often, we just need to foster an atmosphere in which those things can grow. We can’t seclude ourselves or hide in a closet. Likewise, we cannot permit ourselves to wallow in our defeats. It may feel impossible, but if you continue thinking you have it rough or that you never catch a break, guess what? You probably won’t. This world can be cruel and rough. There’s no pot of gold at the end of rainbow. It’s going to take a lot more than a hike to discover our treasures here on earth. It’s going to take confidence, determination and an attitude that whatever happens, you’re not giving up.

Remember what I said about hanging out and talking to people who are constantly negative? You’ll get some on you eventually. Be careful who you confide in. If you find yourself not wanting to share news with someone, you better stop and ask yourself why. Will they point out the bad? Will they support a bad decision? Will they encourage you to take another path? Are you confiding in someone just because you know they will support a bad decision?? We are responsible for surrounding ourselves with positive people, starting with ourselves! You may not want to hear their consistently cheery, uplifted voices singing praise for all the little things, but trust me, it’s a hell of a lot better than being around someone who has a gift of finding the bad in every situation. It gets tiresome. It’s gets….heavy. It becomes a burden and without realizing it, it starts to rub off.

This may sound odd, but, you don’t alawys have to believe everything a positive person says, or even everything you tell yourself. Maybe you don’t feel today is going to get any better, but tell yourself, ‘today will be better’ anyway. And if it isn’t. Well, you tried. And now…tomorrow is going to be better. (Get it?) Doesn’t that sound like a much better alternative than telling yourself every morning how much this day is going to suck? It would get to the point where you reluctantly drag yourself out of bed and end up a part of that cable commerical on TV reenacting movie scenes with Charlie Sheen. (bahaha!) I mean, really. Life will have its moments of sucking, so let it suck on its own. 😉

I see myself in my daughter…she’s going through a hard time right now. Lots of new responsibilities on the horizon, opportunities and choices at every turn, and a broken heart to boot. Yet I read as she posts words of encouragement on her Facebook page. I know she’s hurting, but she’s keeping her chin up. She had her moment of solace and now, she’s picking up and moving on. She’s making choices that will lead to chances. She’s like a little mini-me. I want to cry because I’m so proud. I know she won’t always make the right decision, but she’s thinking them through, confiding in the right people and she’s making them. She’s not letting life control her, she’s taking control of her life. Even if we don’t believe it, there are powers in our words. Yes. Plural. They can be powers of good or powers of bad. We can expound a view of negativity and constant sorrow, or we can allow ourselves a period of bereavement and move on. It’s a choice…and choices lead way to our chances. (I’m so proud of you sis, and I’ll always be here for you, even when I have to say the things I know you don’t want to hear. Just like my Mom did for me.)

If we settle for being at the bottom of the hill, we will stay there. If we compromise our happiness by embracing defeat and sadness in the valley, we will miss out on our chance to return once again to the top of the mountain. My boyfriend told me the other day, “the mountain isn’t so scary for a climber.“ So, BE that climber. I’m not saying you can’t be sad, can’t have a bad day, what I’m saying is, don’t permit yourself to stay in the valley. Take life for what it is: a series of lessons and tests, a roller coaster of ups and down. Don’t fool yourself in believing it’s easy for anyone and more importantly, don’t give up…don’t let chances get away.

 

NOTE: I wrote this is a hurry so forgive me for not editing and revising. I just wanted to get this posted…I had the chance, so I took it 🙂

Oh. And as I write about my daughter, I realized, it’s my mother’s birthday. She’d be 81…wow. In 2001 she had a stroke that paralyzed her entire left side. Two years later, on Easter Sunday, she passed away. That day I lost my top advisor, my biggest skeptic and my #1 fan, but I am comforted, and motivated, by the thought that she continues to surround me, looking down and smiling on me from time to time. I hope she sees all the things she taught me. Not only with the words she said, but by the way in which she lived. More importantly, I hope she sees how I’ve carried that love, confidence, devotion and determination to my daughter. ❤ Happy birthday, Mom. 🙂

Do What it Takes to Get What You Want

“Whatever u want in life, etch it deep within your soul. Cling to it and refuse to let go. Don’t settle for what u can get. Do what it takes to get what u want.”

This is one of many posts I made on Facebook Monday. So why is this one so special? Well, it just is.

I’ve been reading “The Power of a Praying Woman” by Stormie Omartian. (Great book, btw.) There’s a chapter about cleansing ourselves and making our hearts right. After reading I walk away with this analogy: none of us are perfect but if we are going to get anywhere we have to start by looking inward. It is usually ourselves that prevent us from moving forward, from getting out of the rut we so often find ourselves in. We can be our own worst enemy. Fortunately that’s where God comes in. When we have our blinders on, when when our eyes are blinded, God can open them…if we ask Him and really mean it. We cannot shy away and continue to make excuses for our downfalls. We have to continue to confess and repent – not just apologize. We have to try our damnest to not do it again. We have to take action, be proactive – not just settle. God is there to help as we reveal the good, the bad, and the ugly.

Some sin we recognize but others we do not: murder, adultery, gossip, doubt, selfishness, dishonesty – all sins. But we make up excuses. The last thing many of us want to do is expose ourselves to the ugly truth so we opt for what feels good right here, right now; what is easiest and less conflicting to get what we feel will ‘complete’ us – but we must face the mirror if we are going to refuse to settle, if we are going to produce any kind of real change in our lives. We have to wake up and realize that others do not determine our value; others cannot release us from the pit we put ourselves in. Friends are wonderful, don’t get me wrong, but if you are expecting them to throw you a lifeline of change, you’re in for a major disappointment. They can throw a lifeline but it’s up to us to grab it. God throws us a new lifeline every day. But we get so accustom to our ways that we become oblivious to the err in them. Not until we are willing to accept responsibility can we truly do something about it and make a change that is going to amount to anything. True change starts from within. Others cannot tell us our problem or how to fix them – that rests inside us. As I heard Creflo Dollar speak, ‘run to the Throne, not the phone.

If anyone were to ask me the most important lesson I’ve learned in my walk/life, I’d say it’s that being true to yourself is worth more than anything. It’s easy to say I am not perfect…duh. But to say why and actually do something about it – that’s where the change begins. Same actions produce same results.

So here is where I drive the end of my post home: ‘Do what it takes to get what u want’. If you truly want change, you have to start from within. No one can do it for you and no one carries a magic feather. It’s inside each of us. If you’re like me, life is great but there’s just that one area, that one piece that is missing. For me, it’s the longing of a special, good man in my life. Yet, as each day passes and I put more and more faith and control in God’s hands, I am more0 comforted to wait. Until we unite, I am willing to invest in myself with God as my guide because God knows I don’t need a man to complete me, rather, he will compliment me, and I him.

“Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.” ~ Matthew 26:41

“Therefore, my dear brothers and sisters, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain.” ~ 1 Corinthians 15:58

“By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures.” ~ Proverbs 24:3-4

“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another. ” ~ Proverbs 27:17

Child-Like

Ya know how it is when your children are small, how they reach their arms up to you when they want to be held? We gently pick them up as they wrap their tiny arms around our necks. Hearing ‘I love you’ from their innocent lips sends courses of happiness through our viens. There’s nothing like it….Such as life, we have to tell them ‘no’ at some point, and they stomp their feet and pout proclaiming how we are soo unfair. Although we want nothing more than to spoil our children, we know what is right and we have to enforce our rules. We know it’s not the end of the world as their protests might suggest. And the time passes, their tears fade and the lesson is learned.

As they grow up, we continue to shower them with love and direct them on what is right and wrong. Inevitably they will test their boundaries, totally avoiding our instructions, but we still love them and accept their apologies when they come to us with tear filled eyes. We stand firm in the consequences of their actions but our love is never changing. Some of us are fortunate in the fact that as our children grow older, they come to us appreciating our firmness with them through the years because as they grow older and become parents themselves, they recognize the difficulty of balancing love and discipline.

Our hearts are never the same once we become parents. We would give up everything for them: our money, our time, our lives, but we will never sacrifice their innocence by not disciplining them because we each know from experience that as we grow into adults the world can be harsh and relentless. The world was not designed to be ‘fair’. It is filled with evils and dangers around every corner. There are people out there who will take advantage of us in a heart beat is given the opportunity. Without our parental guidance, they would not know the difference. Even as such, we know can’t protect them from everything so whatever we can teach them now while they are under our supervision is utterly valueable and we will continue to be there for them as they grow into adults because we love them and have nothing but great expectations for their lives. Lessons are much easier learned as a child or young adult, when the mind is still plyable and when they know they can count on us, they will come to us no matter how old they are.

Now think of this: there is a reason we call God our Father. There is a reason we stretch our hands to heaven, to be held in His arms, to be closer to Him. We utter ‘I love you’ to Him and his heart swells with joy. We turn to His Word for advice and guidance, yet, when we don’t mind we also must be disciplined. He’d love nothing more than to spoil us, but He can’t. He knows the evils of this world, too. Even more than we do. There are lessons to be learned and He wants nothing more than for us to succeed. He remains constant and firm, always available for love and guidance, but as adults, we have free will. We decide what path we take. He doesn’t force us, He wants us to come to Him on our own, to follow Him as a choice, not a command. He’ll always be there, even when we screw up and He will always accept us, with tear-filled eyes, when we screw up and ask for forgiveness. With God, we are never too old to stop learning and it is never too late to ask Him for guidance.

It is sad to think that some of us have never experienced the love of what a parent should be. Some are abused as children and the mere thought of a heavenly Father is so far from their comprehension. Furthermore, there is so much divorce nowadays, many children grow up Fatherless. As Mother’s it is our duty to include their Dad in their lives no matter how great or how horrible. Remember, you’re the one who picked him and your child deserves to know their Dad whether good, bad or ugly. I know this first hand. It’s not about financial support, it’s about the relationships we form, or do not form. Life is hard and full of challenges, yet that is where we need to learn to turn to God. The love of our Heavenly Father is unconditional and immeasurable.

For those of you who have never reached out to God but desire to have a relationship with Him, I’ve included the Sinner’s Prayer below. But don’t stop there – find a church, surround yourself with spiritual people, read your bible, go to my Facebook page and add me as a friend, SUBSCRIBE TO THIS BLOG . I’m new at this too, but we can grow together. We are all God’s children learning the lessons of life. Find rest in His unfailing arms of love….

The Sinner’s Prayer

“Father, I know that I have broken your laws and my sins have separated me from you. I am truly sorry, and now I want to turn away from my past sinful life toward you. Please forgive me, and help me avoid sinning again. I believe that your son, Jesus Christ died for my sins, was resurrected from the dead, is alive, and hears my prayer. I invite Jesus to become the Lord of my life, to rule and reign in my heart from this day forward. Please send your Holy Spirit to help me obey You, and to do Your will for the rest of my life. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.”

 

“Even a child is known by his actions, by whether his conduct is pure and right.” – Proverbs 20:11

He took a little child and had him stand among them. Taking him in his arms, he said to them, “Whoever welcomes one of these little children in my name welcomes me; and whoever welcomes me does not welcome me but the one who sent me.” ~ Mark 9:36-37

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2“Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— 3“that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” ~ Ephesians 6:1-3

“Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.” ~ Colossians 3:20

“But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and forever! Amen.” ~ 2 Peter 3:18