Something to Learn About Love

Everyone has something to learn about love, even those of us who believe we already know what love is. Ya know, when you really think about it, love is a very broad word: we love our parents, our children, our friends, even our enemies, in very different ways, but the principles are the same: according to 1 Corinthians 13:4-6 we are to be kind and understanding, not envious, boastful or proud. We are not to be self-centered or hot-headed but loyal, forgiving and honest. It’s so easy to forget these basic principles…especially the self-centeredness. Speaking more along the lines of intimate love not just sex but the love between man and woman, how often do we find ourselves saying that the other person is not fulfilling a need? Not loving us enough, including us or giving us what we want? With each tear and stomp we build a wall that becomes increasingly harder to climb and harder for ourselves to see across so we start looking elsewhere. We suffocate ourselves with ourselves. Brick by brick we add to our walls and blind our own eyes. But isn’t that greed?? Where do we draw the line? Don’t ask me, and don’t expect me to answer that here because I simply do not know. If it’s one thing I’ve come to realize in this walk, love is truly a mystery to me.

Some people are afraid to let love in, while others want it so bad they bypass any and all filters that could spare them from certain pain. I wish I was more afraid… I’d pray for it, but I’m afraid I’d get those lessons much like I’ve received the lessons for the patience I’ve prayed for. (Insert giggle here.) It would be much easier to walk on this earth without the desire for a companion. I honestly want for nothing…I love my job, my kids, my home, my car, and my finances are in order. For the first time in life I feel secure and happy…but…there’s a piece missing and it’s driving me nuts. Trying to find it only makes me wonder if it’s even really there, if our world has changed so much that many don’t even care about anything but themselves. 

I hold onto the values listed in 1 Cor 13:1-13 and I vow to love like this as it’s obviously how God wants us to love. It’s a perfect description of love, and not just a description but…instructions. If you’ve ever wished there was a manual on love, here it is. As a reminder, I have a large 20×30 poster of the verses 1-3 on my wall in my livingroom. (Yes, I made that.) It’s not so much of a reminder that I don’t have love – I have the greatest love from my family and friends – and I know am not ‘nothing’, but I’m still waiting. Waiting for that special kind of love that will compliment me, that will make sense of my design.


 “1 If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.

 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

 8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

 13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” ~ 1 Corinthians 13:1-13

“Love is like war: Easy to begin but hard to end.” ~ Anonymous

“Love doesn’t make the world go round, love is what makes the ride worthwhile.” ~Elizabeth Browning

“Attention is the most basic form of love; through it we bless and are blessed.” ~ John Tarrant

9 responses to “Something to Learn About Love

  1. Oh I hear your words of love my “girlfriend” and I can totally relate to your words for that is what is missing in my life also…we can have things, brains, knowledge but without love what is it for??? We need the ying to our yang! It’s funny I read this today because I have been battling with the same thoughts! Yes, all the wise men and women state that we MUST love ourselves first and complete ourselves first before we have our TRUE love – okay I say – I have worked and worked and reworked myself, I love to no end and yet I have not be introduced to that love of my life….is it patience – well patience is my middle name “Nancy Patience Shields” so that’s not my lesson so what is my lesson and your lesson in all this? Is it TRUST and not YOUR time my sweet child but MY TIME????
    In love and light,

  2. Aloha Angie, this is beautiful and Love is the key to everything. I am not sure why we overlook love as the greatest gift and not express it as much as we should. My up bringing in our home, I can’t say that I heard much of this expression. But yet God was mentioned in our home and with conviction and I use to wonder is that what God is about convicting our spirit.

    As I matured in life, I realized that there is more to life. God is Love and I made a change for me and incorporated love in my life and this was the missing ingredient that made a big change for me. I am glad I did because life is a blessing and the Lord expresses his love in many ways within me and those around me. And forgiveness came with Love. Glad I came by and thanks for sharing. God bless you!

    PS..come by and visit me sometime. Mahalo, 🙂

  3. My favorite subject Angie! Usually when I am having a challenge in love in the physical it comes back to this verse, Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’; and, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.
    Luke 10:27
    Love is an amazing thing and even more so when God releases and shines forth his love through someone that we least expect it to come from. It is a challenge to love all the time and to know how that love is supposed to be manifest through us however loving Daddy first and asking Him for the answer has always helped me. You know that scripture about lean not on your own understanding. Girlie, this world’s way of thinking can get you into trouble. I should know I have been soooo stupid. God Bless You and Thank you soooooo much for writing about HIS LOVE. HIS LOVE is awesome. xxoo C

  4. Angie,
    This is so well thought, and written regarding love….Your references to scripture are so supportive, and directive to all of us that sometimes stumble seeking only the selfish human love that we crave….we have all the love we really need if we only take that leap of faith to recognize it, and allow it to enrich the fabric of our lives….. Peace….. Karen 🙂

  5. Great post. I am going to read it over and over again Angie. I am wondering if one should give all of the giving though? (For a season).

    • I love it! That kind of solves part of my internal argument, however, I will say that determining which is healthy is the hard part. Sometimes God puts us through a wilderness that is scary and full of potential hurt, so how do we know when it is of God and of our own wants and desires?? I’ve been there too many times and I think it is my doing. Not His. Thanks for the great comment SAB 🙂

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