So. You have someone new entering your life. Maybe you see signs that they aren’t good for you, but you want to excuse them…pass it off. You are naturally attracted to them and it appears you have the same direction, the same desires. Maybe the devil gets in your mind and whirls it around so much that you cannot differentiate if it is of God, of Satan or of you. Well, here’s one basic principle I’m learning to stick to: judge the fruit, not the motive. The verses below may speak more about prophets but I think it can be related to any one in our lives. We should not judge – the bible is very clear on that, but this passage shows us that if what one produces in life is not ‘good’ we have the right, and the authority to steer away from them. Someone may have a great talk, a great walk, but what are they producing? Words are easy. Actions are easy, but you can’t fake what you produce in your life. Be careful my friends, because it’s easy to believe in someone. That’s what we want and we want it so bad. Once soul ties form, the bad ones are like prison chains compressing your lungs, blinding your eyes and binding your heart. You will struggle to break free. Do the work up front before investing too much of yourself, before you can’t break free.
No one likes change, but freeing yourself from soul ties is much worse. This is really laying heavy on me. I see it more than I ever thought existed. Matter of fact I didn’t realize it existed because I was living it. If you find yourself hurt over a past relationship, give yourself time to heal. Too often we jump from one relationship to another. We profess to be over that person but deep inside, the pain is there. We think finding someone else will make the pain go away but it only masks it. The wounds have not had time to heal. A new relationship is merely a band-aid. That old hurt will resurface and it may take new form. You go to the dentist for a toothache, a doctor for a body ache, but you go to God for a heart ache. Let God work in you for awhile. Be still. Let it hurt, let it sting. It will be the best thing you’ve ever done for yourself. I can tell you from experience that it’s hard. You may feel lonely, scared, hurt…tears may come out of nowhere sometimes, but it’s a heck of a lot better than jumping into another relationship and compounding that hurt with more.
We all want love. It’s in our human nature, and some of us will do anything to not be alone. But God may not be bringing you that special someone, because you aren’t SINGLE yet! Not in your heart – where it counts. You will carry that residual hurt with you where ever you go until you come to terms with it. Like a disease, it will lay dormant for a time. Just like wolves, some feed on that. They see the desperation; sometimes because they can relate to it and others because they see what they can get from it. They are attracted to it. Be leary of the wolves in sheeps clothing. Not everyone is good for you. Standing in a garage doesn’t make you a car just like standing in a church doesn’t make you a Christian. Your fruit does that – your fruit speaks for you. If you keep attracting losers, it’s you who has some serious work to do. I know I do. I’m putting on the new me, but that old me is still there…slowly fading. And the more I’m learning about the new me, I’m not going to miss her at all.
A Tree and Its Fruit
15“Watch out for false prophets. They come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves. 16By their fruit you will recognize them. Do people pick grapes from thornbushes, or figs from thistles? 17Likewise every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. 18A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, and a bad tree cannot bear good fruit. 19Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. 20Thus, by their fruit you will recognize them.
21“Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. 22Many will say to me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and in your name drive out demons and perform many miracles?’ 23Then I will tell them plainly, ‘I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoers!’ ~ Matthew 7:15-23
“A righteous man is cautious in friendship, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.” ~ Proverbs 12:26
“As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” ~ Proverbs 27:17
“For the time will come when men will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear.” ~ 2 Timothy 4:3